Do You Know Who You Are?

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To be someone else, is a sheer waste of someone you are, said Marilyn Monroe. And there couldn’t have been truer words.

To walk, talk, eat and drink; to sit down and stand up; to fall off to sleep and to wake up, it all comes as naturally as breathing. Some part of our subconscious dictates how we would conduct ourselves in public. An inner mind tells us whether a situation demands efforts or we can just let it pass by neglecting the courtesies and the greetings. There is always a voice that tells you the kind of crowd to mingle with and the behaviour expected from you in each social scenario. A cerebral judgement decides for you and you know if you are a misfit or this is where you belong, with all your curves and all your edges.

So what happens in such effectiveness that you have to think not once or twice, but at the least four times before every action and reaction? You walk around, work and speak in the regular patterned routine, assuming that it is your normal self and how your body functions. Have you ever given it a thought that it is not all you and your body’s instructions, but a major dictation of societal expectations and bounds that you act according to. You walk slowly and with your legs kept together because ‘that is how a female normally walks’. How do you know that? You talk with a soft voice and at an average pace because ‘that is the decent way of talking for girls’. You tie your hair or you leave them open not because it comforts you, but because that is how you look beautiful, graceful and feminine, extracting compliments from those who do not know the pains of a tightly tied pony or the un-manageable grievances of long tresses. You interact with a certain type of crowd because they are the ones who would be considered ‘a good company’. You keep your distance from boys not because you have an aversion from them, but because that is how an honourable girl behaves. You take care of your mannerisms around elders, not because you respect them but because your gestures around them decide what sort of upbringing you have had.

Ask yourself these questions about why you do or don’t do each of these things and you’ll end up with more or less the same explanations. If not the same, you’d have answers along the same lines. What is universal however, is the fact that each of you everywhere will have an answer. No one would choose to stop and think over the mechanism of these things work around us. Whether right or wrong, proven or not, tested or new, the usual or invented, there will be an answer and there will be answer for more questions if asked and more issues if raised. My concern here, is not to raise the issue but to raise eyebrows at the growing neglect to such seemingly, minor issues. My concern here is the unfair compromise and an unquestioned settlement in order to avoid chaos and instability.

How often have you heard the term ‘like a girl’? How often have you heard people use this term? How often have you heard people use this term as a humiliation? How often have you heard people use this term as a joke that goes around only for laughing and not even for enough consideration to understand its implication? How often have you heard people use this term without paying the slightest heed to the insult it pays to an entire gender occupying an equal space around? How often have you heard people use this term ‘like a girl’ and have been a bystander, a passerby, a mere spectator to the sly, gradual murder of the self esteem of the females across the globe?

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Assume that you were a guy. How would you feel if you were told that you walk and talk like a girl? Would it pinch? Would it hurt your ego? Would it affect you in any way possible? Would it hinder your usual manner of being and influence you to alter the way you are? So now come back to being a girl. So you are the standard that you, as a boy, were being compared to, in order to show you a low that you are not expected to drop to. Makes everything complicated, does it? Well, that is how things work around you. Take a look, observe, realize, confront and make a change or a vow to bring about a change.

To walk, talk, eat and drink; to sit down and stand up; to fall off to sleep and to wake up, it all comes as naturally as breathing. It is only as complicated as your being. Understand who you are, and live it. Be who you wish to and all that you aspire for. Don’t forget the essence of your soul. The toughest battle of all, is to remember why you started and who you started as.

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To be someone else, is a sheer waste of someone you are, said Marilyn Monroe. And there couldn’t have been truer words.

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