I am sure almost all of us have heard these two words innumerable times throughout our lives. Be it before an exam, before getting the result of the exam, before going in for a job interview, a meeting, to the hospital for a blood test.. these two words always follow us- “Be positive!”
I mean really, why are we told the same thing again and again? Do our loved ones keep repeating this phrase just to ease our nerves in that situation? Do these words only have the purpose of cheering us up? Or do they have a much deeper significance than that?
So I was introduced to this phrase several years ago by my best-friend. I had spent an entire night studying for an exam, but I was a bag of nerves just before the exam, because honestly I couldn’t re-collect a thing. My mind had turned into a clean slate. But she told me to relax and go into the room like I literally knew which questions would come. She kept telling me to keep repeating in my mind that my exam would be good. But in my nervousness, I even forgot what she had said. So I go into the room, and when I see the question paper, my heart goes right down into my stomach. I literally didn’t know anything!!
So after two intensely nerve-wracking hours, I finally walked out of the room- the exam was a disaster. I mean who understands Chemistry anyway? When I told this to my best-friend, she immediately asked me whether I had bothered being even a little positive about the whole affair. And obviously I had not.. but I also added that I had tried my best to do well, and had attempted questions, which I was sure I wouldn’t know the answer to. Though a little disappointed at my utter ignorance to her advice, she told me to go home, and try being as positive as I could be about the result. Really? Again? Will she never give up?
So I went home, and finally it dawned on me that I needed to pass that exam by hook or by crook. So I decided that taking her advice wouldn’t really harm me in any way. And so the chant began, I kept thinking in my mind that I would do well, because I had really worked hard for it. And lo and behold! After three days when I got my results, I was really surprised, and that’s putting it mildly! Not only had I passed, but I had got more marks, than what I thought I had attempted. Oh the feeling- I was on cloud nine. And when I turned to face my bestie, she had this “I told you so” smirk on her face.
And then there was no turning back. From that moment on, it’s like my whole personality under-went a radical change. I used to try being positive about almost any situation whose outcome I wasn’t sure of. And more often than not, the results were in my favour!
But I also want to make something very clear here- I am definitely not saying that no matter what we do, or in which way we deal with our problems, just by being positive we can get things under control. No, that doesn’t work. You have to put your best foot forward, and have to really do the best you can. And then all you need is Faith in the fact that things will work out for you.
Being positive has so many benefits. Not only does it ease our tense nerves, but it allows us to think with a clear mind, helps us have a stronger personality, improves our health, improves our personal relations, and it can literally add years to our lives.
If we are positive and we think with a clear mind, we can gauge the possibility of our success in a particular situation, and we can rectify any mistake on our part, while we still have the time. If you are a positive person, you tend to literally give out positive vibes, and that is so attractive. It adds that edge to your personality. We all want to be around people who are always cheerful, smiling, and confident. Who take things in their stride, and are never disappointed with failure, but use it as a step to achieve bigger successes.
It has been medically proven that a positive attitude keeps health disorders at bay. It reduces your chances of going into depression, and of taking excessive stress. As a result your blood-pressure levels are normal, and your risk of death caused by cardio-vascular diseases is also greatly reduced.
But we have to pay a price for all the good things in life. Being positive also comes at a price- that of over-coming all the negativity we are bombarded with everyday. We are surrounded by negative feelings of jealousy, disappointment, sorrow, fear, blame, and insecurity to name a few. This forces us to get into arguments, and creates unnecessary misunderstandings in our lives.
So how can we be positive when Life is shooting us down with lemons? Here are a few tips which I hope will start you on your journey of becoming an optimist:
1. The first and foremost thing you have to do is be positive about yourself. You need to feel good to look good. If you love yourself, others around you will love you too. I am not saying that you should be snooty or overly proud, but be confident. Confidence radiates out of you like an aura, and people are automatically attracted to happy and confident people, because it helps them to lose their insecurities.
2. To be positive about yourself, you have to be happy, and vice versa. And definitely don’t depend on others for that. Do small things for yourself which will make you happy- go out, have fun. Go buy a new dress, learn a new language, indulge in a new hobby. Basically discover a new you, and you’ll be surprised at the several new talents you had not explored.
3. Also another important point is that you have to make an effort to surround yourself with positive people. Stop being with people who do not make you feel good. A drowning person will pull you down too, if you get too close. And I am sure we all have experienced this- how many times have you felt depressed, after trying to cheer a friend up? So if you meet happy people, you will be happy too.
4. Set achievable goals for yourself. And once you achieve what you desire, your confidence will touch the stars, and then you can aim for the moon.
5. Also you should never let a hard time push you down, but use it as a helping hand to get up. Try turning every opportunity into a challenge. Give your best effort, and then keep thinking of positive things. Nothing can stop you from being successful then.
6. You must sit down and think of all the people who love you. Always think of all the love in your life, count your blessings, and be thankful. If you are thankful for the gifts life offers you, it will compel Life to give you more.
These are just a few tips to get you started on your optimistic journey, and you will discover new things on the way. A positive person is the most attractive person, because we all want to look upto someone who will inspire us, and will make us happy, and tell us that things will be alright. Wake up in the morning with a smile, write positive quotes where you can see them everyday, go help someone, smile at someone who you think needs it, set a day out in the week when you’ll consciously do something nice for someone whose life isn’t turning out that well, just be happy and make others around you happy!
Only YOUR positive energy will attract the positive energy of the Universe, and like someone very famous once said, “Kehte hai agar kisi cheez ko dil se chaaho, toh poori kaynath tumhein usse milane ki koshish mein lag jaati hai! (they say, if you want something with all your heart, then the entire Universe conspires in helping you achieve it.