Life had been completely different when I used to attend a convent. Discipline, strictness, morals, etiquette, values and a lady-like behavior was all we knew. We were always protected from what we call “a bad man’s world”. Inside those walls, we lived in a world which was entirely our own. An addition to it, it was an all-girls school. Things were even better! No shyness, no embarrassment talking regarding all-girl issues. We grew up together so we also had similar thought processes and perceptions. It was easy to communicate, discuss regarding anything and everything. Everyone was like family. So, it could be said that life till eighteen was completely simple and straight.
But now it was the time to bid goodbye and walk out of those walls, out of that shelter and face the real world, all by myself. And deep inside I knew that I did not want to move out. I did not want to leave an important part of my life and move ahead. I was scared of changes. I was just, SCARED! What if I did not like the new people? What if the atmosphere does not suit me? What if I am dropped into a place which is completely different from what I want? What if I am dropped into a place where I am not meant to be? It all seemed so difficult at that time. Fourteen years of constancy was about to go through some massive change.
College applications are one of the most complex and mentally tiresome things to do. Choosing college best for yourself, choosing your suitable streams, cut-offs, seat reservations, all seems to take its toll on you. But for me, that was not the difficult part. What seemed more difficult was to enter a completely new place altogether. Friends promised to keep in touch, but I think we all know what gradually happens, don’t we? When people are out of sight, they are out of the mind. So, after the admission procedure was complete, and after a lot of conflicting emotions, it was finally time to enter into college life.
It’s been almost a year now. And I feel that this one year has taught me lessons which are of more importance than what I have learnt from my eighteen years of life. It has been tough, very tough. I have overcome each and every obstacle, some easily and some after a lot of difficulty, but I have eventually. Now, it’s that time of the year when my juniors shall face a similar situation. And there are a few things I would like to share out of my own experience. It might not help them in anyway, but it can definitely give them a clearer picture.
LEARN TO ACCEPT THINGS JUST AS THEY ARE. This is the key solution to many negative thoughts. You did not get the college of your choice? Accept it. You did not get classmates of your choice? Accept it. The food sold in the canteen is not good? Accept it. Your professors are nagging? Accept it. Accept your life just as it is. It is your destiny and you got exactly how much you have worked for.
ADAPT. You do not have the option to run away. You have to stay there for the upcoming few years of your life. After you have accepted this fact, adapt to your surroundings. Communicate. Explore. There are definitely things which may suit your needs. But do not choose to be an escapist.
LOOK INTO THE BRIGHTER SIDE OF THINGS. You could not find your choice of people to spend time with? Good! Start spending time with different kinds of people. Talk to them; learn about their lifestyle, joys, fears and tastes. You hate your canteen? Even better! It has definitely given you a good chance to explore new places nearby. Find your lectures boring? Spice it up by cross questioning the professors and build a conversation! It is THAT easy.
DEVELOP YOURSELF. You might be under the spotlight back in school. But in college, there are too many stars and very few spotlights. You think you are not good enough, yet you want the spotlight? Work for it! Develop your skill. Practice what you do, learn new techniques and be innovative. Construct your own new ideas and implement it. People will notice what is new and good eventually.
BE PATIENT. Everyone is not how you want them to be. You will hear things you do not want to hear and indirectly get involved into things you want to stay away from. You will get bullied at one point and looked down upon. You will feel lonely and dejected. You might just break contacts with everyone and lock yourselves in your respective rooms. But that is not the solution. Get up and face the bad things. Patience is your mantra. Let people talk negative but you do not lose your patience. Every individual has his or her own share of bad times. But it is just a phase, which will soon pass. There is a saying: You are never as broken as you think you are. Sure, you have a couple of scars and a couple of bad memories, but all great heroes do.