What really makes a woman independent in the 21st century? Some might believe that defining the independent woman in today’s world is as simple as just describing your typical woman. A large percentage of us are college educated or on the track to higher degrees, looking for employment, living in our own places, living our own independent lives. The “happy homemaker” is hard to find these days and that species will soon be extinct.
So what is it that really sets a woman apart as an independent woman? The true Ms Independent isn’t necessarily the high earning CEO of a grand company. She is on the contrary a woman who is afraid. She is afraid of all the dishonours that encircle the very idea of being independent. She fears being abandoned, she fears being judged, and she fears being rejected. But regardless of all the fears she has, a real independent woman throws her shoulders back, tips her head up and plods forward. She is succeeding and moving forward in life not because she’s accepted the things the world is telling her but in spite of them.
Being an independent woman in today’s world is not about self-sufficiency but instead is about courage. In a world that seems more than accepting of the independent woman than it did 50 years ago, there is a lot of negativity that surrounds the successful and independent woman. Success and independence in females often becomes synonymous with anger and bitterness. In no time an independent woman turns into a selfish woman who’s too busy to stay at home and care for her man and her children.
The true independent woman fears the judgement of a decision, but she knows that her happiness and satisfaction comes before the society’s judging eyes. She does not accept the myth that she cannot be successful and still find love, commitment, and support. The Independent woman of the 21st century is a rare jewel who outlines the female counterculture. She is the woman who says if I want it all I will have it all, society be damned. Whether or not you see yourself as an independent woman, you can take a page from her book. It is okay to be afraid, but it’s never okay to let that fear control you. Every woman has the right to her independence and should learn how to be a strong and independent person. Here are a few tips on how you can do that:
Help other women become independent:
There’s nothing more strong and independent than teaching other girls how to be the same. Help a sister out. Teach others to always remember that you don’t need to depend on others for approval or affirmation. You are the master of your own life and no one has the right to boss you around or control your life. Only a woman can understand another woman, so in time of need help your sisters out and teach them to be independent. Set an example to other women and motivate them to become stronger.
A relationship isn’t the only thing that will get you happiness:
This is perhaps the most important lesson of them all. Having a man to love, to share your feelings and life with should enrich your life, not define it. No matter how badly you think you need a relationship, you must first learn to love yourself before you can love somebody else. Nothing lasts forever and change is the only constant. Even the perfect relationship might end one day, so you need to make sure that you have a strong enough cushion to land on after a breakup or divorce. If you are already in a relationship, be sure you have other things going on in your life outside of the relationship. Don’t depend on a man or anybody else for your happiness. Learn to happy with yourself. You don’t need a man to complete you. When one comes along, make him a part fo your life, not your life.
Take a stand for yourself:
You will have to learn to stand up for yourself in the real world if you don’t want to be taken advantage of. You must learn how to stand up for yourself at college, at work, and in your social life. If you hear somebody making a sexist, racist, or otherwise disrespectful comment or joke, don’t let it slide and ignore it. This does not mean engaging in an argument. No. Calmly tell the person that what he or she said is not appreciated. Let people know when and how they have wronged you. If somebody betrays you or hurts your feelings, be sure to let him or her know. This will avert the person from repeating the same kind of behaviour in the future.
Take care of your finances:
If you want to be truly independent, you must learn how to pay for your own life so that you don’t have to be dependent on other people. Spend your money wisely, and avoid wasteful expenditures. Be money cautious. Check your bank statements on a regular basis, and be sure to keep your own records as well so that you can catch errors. Learn to prioritize your spending. Your top priorities should be on your basic necessities like food, shelter, and clothing. Luxuries should be kept aside if you can’t afford them.